Please, You Win

For peace to break free from its bonds we, as a whole, have to learn how to give up winning. That means each of us, in turn, has to learn how to give up our winning. Because when we win, by default someone we love loses. The ego loves winning; it is the way of the world. So, blessed are those who do not win in the ways of the world for theirs is the kingdom of God.
Is it possible to let others win over you all the time? That is what it means to give up winning. Is it possible to accept only loss out of deference to others? All the time? Is that even desirable? Jesus answered yes to this question.

Heal Yourself

Forgiveness is the healing balm to our emotional wounds.

When an avalanche breaks it would be a futile endeavor to find out which snowflake pushed which snowflake down the mountain. All have pushed and all have been pushed, many many times, and that  first snowflake was holding on to the mountain with the weight of all the others on his back.

It is a futile endeavor to find out who has hurt who in the avalanche we call life. All have hurt and all have hurt others many many times. Accept that you are both “criminal” and “victim”.

So if your’re a “victim”, don’t take the avalanche of the human condition personally. It’s not about you. If you’re a “criminal” don’t blame yourself for too long for letting go of the mountain, it was only a matter of time.

One hurt at a time:

See. Accept. Forgive. Let go.

The avalanche had to break, but it need not last forever. Be brave!


Life is about learning our lessons, and everything else is just sandcastles in a rising tide.

What is a life lesson? You have learned a life lesson once you have been convinced, 100%, that happiness is not found in “x”, nor “y”, nor “z” because you have thoroughly checked. And once you have learned many lessons it dawns on you that perhaps happiness is not found anywhere “a” through “z”.

So maybe happiness is not a cup to fill, but a beacon to follow?

If the desire for happiness is not a goal to fulfill, it must be a homeing beacon, a calling home. What I call my desire for happiness IS actually my love and desire for God. I really want to be happy! I must love God VERY much.


No need to push a river. Likewise, let life itself flow as it wills, allowing it to take you anywhere it pleases. Detach from the fear of the unknown, detach from the love of gossip, the race to be the first to have heard, the dramas of another person, institution, state, or country. 

It doesn’t need you, and more importantly, you don’t need it. Let life flow as you settle into the stillness and blissful peace that comes from an enduring indifference to things that simply cannot matter to you anymore. 

Letting go is effortless, not because it is easy, but because it is the antithesis of effort. There is a part of us that wants to feel needed by the river of life we push. No need to theorize or convince yourself that this is true. Begin a new pattern of releasing the cares of life and see for yourself that nothing in your life falls apart in you absence. On the contrary, to our horror, it seems to be better off!

Doing Time

Free yourself from the prison of your need to be validated. If only this can be accomplished in you, then peace beyond understanding is yours. In that peace comes healing, and after your healing, wholeness. 

After a lifetime of inprisonment, you lean on the cell door only to realize that it has been unlocked the entire time. After a candid forehead slap, gather yourself and take the first step toward freedom. May the wave of grace push you quickly toward all that you truly are.

Patient Patient

When spiritually healing, adversity is best dealt with by patience. 

Patience is the natural response to one who admits he does not understand the how’s and why’s. 

It is pride that assumes the knowledge of causes behind delays or unwanted outcomes. It is pride that assumes the knowledge of who to blame and how to punish. 

How can I judge when I have no facts? Does my puny perspective of the universe include enough to qualify me as judge? Never.

When annoyed, patience. When in pain, patience. When attacked, patience. When misunderstood, patience. When unheard, patience. When denied, patience. When ignored, patience. When treated unjustly, patience. 

After all, are you so sure that these negatives are not to your loving benefit in the end?

This too shall pass…